Monday, May 21, 2012

Monogamy….Matrimony…Monogamy…Matrimony



Not too much of a gap between posts this time around. Before you continue to read, REALIZE that I REALLY appreciate you reading what I write. It’s not a given—so I’m VERY grateful. THANK-------------------YOU! Thumbs up/Virtual high 5

I’m getting married! Eventually. LOL. Hopefully one day I will share my life with ONE woman and glide through the rest of my life with her. The idea of monogamy has enough depth to make grown men sweat. ßI didn’t mean to rhyme.

“Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate. “ ~Barnett R. Brickner

On May 22nd 2012, my parents will be celebrating 30 years of marriage. I NEVER want to discount or diminish the positive example that their longevity has had on my life. Of course the 30 years got me thinking (as most things do) about the general idea of commitment. Marriage is at the TOP of the totem poll as far as commitment implications. How do some people MAKE it look easy and other people MAKE it look so hard? Mind you, in both instances I emphasized “MAKE”. One of the CRUCIAL things I’ve learned through my parents’ union is that even when people make it “look” easy, it is NOT easy. Is commitment ever easy? I don’t know if I have the answer to that question, but I know that with God all things are possible. 30 years doesn’t happen without God—just my personal opinion. 10 years doesn’t happen without God.

Monogamy-the practice or state of being married to one person at a time. That definition makes some people weak at the knees. My definition would probably make their knees’ knees get weak. How about “having eyes and affection for only one person”? Did that make you scared? Society almost makes it seem like it can’t be done. If God is the glue, I GUARANTEE it can.

I’m looking forward to marriage. For like a trillion reasons. If you’re reading this passage and you’re not married yet, let’s bring that divorce rate DOWN. We can do it.

“You can never be happily married to another until you get a divorce from yourself.  Successful marriage demands a certain death to self.”  ~Jerry McCant

Marcus Anthony Akins
            ~M.A.2~


3 comments:

  1. This blog entry is full of so many wonderful truths, I'm not sure where to begin. The laws of recency and primacy tell my mind to respond to the most recency first...so, I'll start at the END of your blog. Ha, the irony!
    "...successful marriage demands a certain death to self." This quote immediately reminded me of Mark 8:34-35. In the same way we've been called to deny ourselves and carry our cross, marriage HAS to demand the same protocol. Our commitment to God and passionate pursuit of HIM (as my pastor so beautifully worded it on Sunday) is our training for every other form of commitment in which we indulge. And, indeed, 30 years of commitment cannot come without God because, well...HE is commitment, among all the other things that HE is. To try to commit without God would be like trying to open a door that has no handle - IMPOSSIBLE. :)

    And, the divorce rates...oh the divorce rates...are representative of the 70% of people that try to open that door, anyhow. Smh.

    Well, I guess I'll end here...this post definitely made for some great food for thought, which I'm sure I'll be chewing for awhile.

    Thanks!

    JohnettaDeserae

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