Monogamy….Matrimony…Monogamy…Matrimony

Not too much of a gap between posts this time around. Before you continue to read, REALIZE that I REALLY appreciate you reading what I write. It’s not a given—so I’m VERY grateful. THANK-------------------YOU! Thumbs up/Virtual high 5

I’m getting married! Eventually. LOL. Hopefully one day I will share my life with ONE woman and glide through the rest of my life with her. The idea of monogamy has enough depth to make grown men sweat. ßI didn’t mean to rhyme.

“Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate. “ ~Barnett R. Brickner

On May 22^nd 2012, my parents will be celebrating 30 years of marriage. I NEVER want to discount or diminish the positive example that their longevity has had on my life. Of course the 30 years got me thinking (as most things do) about the general idea of commitment. Marriage is at the TOP of the totem poll as far as commitment implications. How do some people MAKE it look easy and other people MAKE it look so hard? Mind you, in both instances I emphasized “MAKE”. One of the CRUCIAL things I’ve learned through my parents’ union is that even when people make it “look” easy, it is NOT easy. Is commitment ever easy? I don’t know if I have the answer to that question, but I know that with God all things are possible. 30 years doesn’t happen without God—just my personal opinion. 10 years doesn’t happen without God.

Monogamy-the practice or state of being married to one person at a time. That definition makes some people weak at the knees. My definition would probably make their knees’ knees get weak. How about “having eyes and affection for only one person”? Did that make you scared? Society almost makes it seem like it can’t be done. If God is the glue, I GUARANTEE it can.

I’m looking forward to marriage. For like a trillion reasons. If you’re reading this passage and you’re not married yet, let’s bring that divorce rate DOWN. We can do it.

“You can never be happily married to another until you get a divorce from yourself.  Successful marriage demands a certain death to self.”  ~Jerry McCant

Marcus Anthony Akins

            ~M.A.²~

Corrección

Okay! So here I am with another soliloquy carrying a “I haven’t posted a blog in a long time” vibe. Notice I said “posted”. This is not to say that I don’t write or constantly put my thoughts down on paper. It’s just to say that I don’t post. After the 3^rd or 4^th text message/email asking where the blogs are, I think, “okay here we go again”. Sooooooooooo…here we go agaaaaaaaaaaaain!

I just celebrated my 23^rd birthday a few days ago and of course with another year, reflection comes. We like to see where we’ve grown and/or where we’ve fallen off. One of the BIGGEST places I’ve grown has been my ability to accept correction. I think a lot of times when a person thinks, “I’m a good person”, it seems the “correcting” comes few and far between. For me, someone who used to HATE being corrected, I now RUN to it. Watch me jog---------àAnd I’m gone. =)

Correcting bad habits cannot be done by forbidding or punishment. ~Robert Baden-Powell

Here’s the tricky part—finding folk in your life that will correct you when you’re wrong, without judging you at the same time. I used to be one of the number that would throw correction while judging at the same time. AKA correcting someone out of ANYTHING other than LOVE. Correction + Love = Positive Result. It’s difficult to find someone that will correct you out of GENUINE love, but when you do, make sure you keep your arms around them.

A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes, smart enough to profit from them, and strong enough to correct them. ~John C. Maxwell

Bottom line, don’t run from correction—EMBRACE IT! Especially if it’s making you better.

Okay so that wasn’t the bottom line. =O Don’t call 911. When people correct you, try your BEST not to exude the “well YOU need to work on this” syndrome. Take it for what it is. AND GET BETTER!

Marcus Anthony Akins

         ~M.A.^2~